12 August 2012

I Have a Secret (I Like Porn)

Traditional Eskimos were savvy in their methods to kill wolves. The Eskimo would take a very sharp, two-edged blade, and dip the blade into the blood of smaller game.  Left out in the cold, the blood would freeze onto the blade becoming a blood popsicle. The Eskimo would re-dip and freeze the blade, repeating this process several times.  He would, then, carefully secure the blade into the ground; during the night hours a wolf would come, smell the blood, and lick it.

As the unsuspecting wolf would begin to lick the tasty frozen blood from the secured blade, his tongue would start to become numb.  The more he licked, the numbness increased.  The unsuspecting animal would lick away the outer layers of blood, eventually slicing its tongue on the razor-sharp blade.  The wolf's sliced tongue would go unnoticed because of the numbness, so he, also, would begin to bleed through his tongue onto the blade. The taste of warm blood would excite him, and he would lick faster and faster and faster and faster, until finally, his tongue was shredded and he would go off and bleed to death.

That is a very good picture of what pornography and lust will do to you.  It numbs you, and in the excitement, you continue to participate until it leaves you seriously wounded and bleeding, potentially leading even to death.

Matthew 5:27, 'Do not commit adultery.  'But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.'

King David was walking around on his rooftop one evening. While he was walking and thinking on whatever kings think about during those late hours, scripture says "from the roof he saw a young woman bathing."  It was this seemingly innocent incident that would lead to so many ruined lives.  As we read in 2 Samuel, we know David sends Joab to learn who the woman was, and that Joab reports back that the woman is "Bathsheba, Uriah's wife."

That's the end of it right? Bathsheba is married so David would leave her alone. But he doesn't. Instead he sends for her, they have sex, she gets pregnant. David, then, sends for Uriah to provide the perfect opportunity for him to sleep with his wife Bathsheeba to hide David's sin, but, Uriah doesn't.  So David sends Uriah back to the battle with a note that says to put him on the front lines. With that note King David signs Uriah's death warrant. Now. David is not only an adulterer but also a liar and a murderer. All this... from what started as one quick glance. What could it hurt, right?

I don't know where you were when you were first exposed to an impurity, but I know if you think about it you will remember in detail.  You may have been at a friend's house and found his dad's stash of magazines. Maybe you've seen Cinemax late at night (Skinemax I think is a better name), or have viewed images while on the internet, but, at sometime, you have been exposed.

Here I am thirty-something years later, and, to this day, I can reach into my mind and pull up those exact images if I just simply try.  They've been burned onto the hard drive of my mind.

Once you have been exposed, your mind receives an injury in the same way a computer hard drive is damaged by a virus. The files are corrupted and the computer no longer functions as it once did. You no longer look at women the same way, and you begin to view them as objects to fulfill your sexual desires. While there is a rush of gratification, there are also feelings of guilt and shame which eventually lead to rationalizing and justifying your actions.

Right now you're asking "How do I break this cycle? How do I take control?" First, understand that you have received a mental injury and we need to protect that injury. And, like all injuries, if its not dealt with, it will become infected.  Using the same strategies you implement to protect your computer with antivirus and firewalls to prevent attacks, we need to do the same with our minds.

How do you break this cycle?
  • Retrain your eyes to look away from every impure thing.  You may be saying "what is wrong with looking?" Go back to King David... 
  • Capture every thought and make it obedient to Christ (2 Cor 10:5). What does that look like? What might you have to do?  You may have to stop what you are doing and call a friend.  Say, “Hey, pray for me.  I’m having a thought again.”  You might pick up your Bible and start reading the Bible. You might turn off your TV or unplug it, or get up and go for a walk, or read a book, but you have to stop what you are doing and replace those sinful thoughts.
  • Whenever sexual temptation comes around, we are going to run for our lives.  King Solomon, speaking of the adulterous woman said, “Keep a path far from her.  Don’t even go near the door of her house.”
How do we control it?
  • Destroy your stash whatever that stash is. 
  • Insure accountability while traveling. You may need to call ahead and ask them to unprogram adult channels or even remove the TV from your room. 
  • Protect your internet usage.  Every click you make can be emailed to a friend, a pastor, or even your spouse; www.xxxchurch.com offers free software to you that will monitor your online usage.  I recommend it wholeheartedly. 
  • Avoid dangerous places. I don't know what this may be for you personally, but you know.
We are protecting the wounds, and as you protect the wound from further injury or infection, God will heal your mind.  Romans 12:2, “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”  By the healing of your mind...  By the changing of your mind...

You are not changed by conforming in your own strength.  You are changed by the transforming power of God. 

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