If you were watching the news one evening, and they gave the forecast for bear attacks warning, “Tomorrow we are reporting a really bad bear attack day, we are forecasting there will be a 50% chance that your children will be mauled by a bear on the way to the bus stop.”
What do you think you are going to do the next day?
Will you simply kiss your children at the door at the door and say, “goodbye, love you, run fast, and good luck!”?
Will you drive them to school, personally, putting them in a suit of armor carrying your trusty Browning .30-06?
You would do something different because the odds are stacked against your children. You would change your habits or behavior.
What if I revealed to you that those are the same statistics for marriages today? Less than 50% of marriages will not make it to 15 years. Statistically, 70% of married men and 60% of married women have affairs. Every 12 seconds another couple divorces.
Something is not working in what we are doing. Our accepted way of doing “marriage” is turning out to be more of a ‘Fail.’
We have been conditioned as men to search far and wide to find the “one.” To really be fulfilled, to have everything you’re supposed to have, for all the planets to align perfectly, we have to find the “one”.
If you were to survey a number of marriages, you would likely discern that some chose precisely the wrong “one.” But, that’s another topic.
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An expert in the law had a question for Jesus.
‘Jesus, of all the commandments, what is the most important one?’
Jesus answered in Matthew 22:37 ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like the first: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’
Love God is first, love your neighbor is second. But, when a guy meets a girl, typically, he’s overwhelmed with how good she smells or how she gives him tingles inside. The guy asks himself, “could SHE be the ONE? She could be the one.”
Nothing would be greater to me than to hear a man of Christ proclaim about a female, “This is so amazing! I have just met my number TWO!”
God should be the “One” and your spouse should be your “Two.”
To experience true fulfillment in life, set your sights first on your number one, and that is God, alone. This is the first and greatest commandment, to love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, soul and strength.
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Genesis 2:24 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother…”
Throughout life, married or single, God should always be your “One.”
When you were growing up, your primary human relationship was your parents. God was to be “One” and your parents were to be number two.
The progressive world doesn't really support living that way, but that is the biblical order or ‘priority order’ of relationships. As you grow up and take the big step of marriage, God continues to be your “One,” but you “leave” your comfortable parental units who enjoyed the number two position, and your bride becomes your Number Two.
Imagine yourself on a trapeze hanging on to mom and dad, you, then let go of mom and dad and you cling to your new Number Two. Your priority relationship shifts. God is still your ‘One,’ you simply let go of mom and dad and you cleave to your new Number Two.
If your marriage is not working as you know it should, take a hard look at the possibility that at least one or both of you have your priorities out of line:
Are your children in the number one priority slot? Do you have a child- centered marriage? Do you want to be so successful that your career is in the number one slot? Are you the first to the couch for the big game? Or, maybe you’re the first in the deer stand.
These aren't BAD things, but, if not kept in check, before long, the fun stuff moves in front of God. He ends up way down the list of priorities, and your marriage falls way down the list, too.
Jesus said, in Matthew 6:33, “seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and then everything else will be added unto you.”
It’s as easy as One, Two, Three.